Men – In The War Of Gender Polarization

Written By Sahithi Divi

Thoughts revisited ( pic : pier 39, San Fransisco )

In these times of extremism, are men able to leverage from the war of gender inequality? Men are being socially subjected to focul standards that forces an embarking imbalance in their self discovery. If a woman is born with pre made choices for her , a man is born with precisely oriented responsibilities for him to deliver. There are ofcourse two sides of gender inequality, but being a firm believer of cross functional ( Men and Women supporting each other ) compatibility benefits, I start off to brainstorm my inferences about the social stigma that is encountered by ‘Men’ in the name of Gender Polarization.

Myths that can affect men

  • Don’t cry like a girl ‘ – Such a mean phrase, that can reduce a person to subjective confusion, not only about his external behaviour but also damages the formation of an internal co existent mind set.
  • Man up – Really ? Does it refer to Strength? Bravery? Drive of Sex? or Built? What we repeatedly say, becomes what we believe, which in turn becomes who we are… Let us promote a world free of ‘ Manning up’ for Men.
  • Homemaker – The greatest things we say about a homemaker ; will we still say all the greatest things if the homemaker is a Man ?
  • Identity Crisis – ‘ Man – Money – Measure ‘ is a deeply engraved carving over a man’s life which means – measure the man with money. Let us create an emotionally insured world for men.
  • Emotional competency – Although empathy can be wonderfully exhibited by men yet they are more vulnerable to expression and often hold back from showing a weakness without restraint.
  • Perfection – Expectation of perfection parasites over men with compulsory deliverables, leaving no choice but to be left wanting to be more better.
  • Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus – We are all united by the means of humanity, nature and resources. Diversity gives differential learning whereas it does not mean that men and women are opposites by nature.

An old man once said to me , ” It is easier to raise strong children than it is to repair broken men “. ( St. Anthony’s Foundation ) Think about it…

Written By Sahithi Divi ( source : http://www.impactscientist.com )

Friendship Day Reminds Me Of My Friend From The Basque Country

Written by Sahithi Divi

Our First Meet In SriLanka

My husband and I were returning from Australia to India with a layover in Sri Lanka for a day . That’s when we decided to explore the nearby places and ended up in a cozy traveler’s hostel at Galle Fort, Sri Lanka to unwind for an hour. When I reached out to get a view of the anciently tucked luxurious streets from our balcony, saw this guy with a Lonely Planet book and a fifteen year old translator greeting a warm-filled happy ‘ Hello My Fraiendd’ ! After all when you are looking for an experience, never miss taking forward to have that exciting conversation just because you don’t know the language. ( the three of us had a very good time for that one hour before we left)

Basque Country

His name is Oier Areitio from Eibar town in the Basque Countryof Spain“.

Few months later in Hyderabad…

Homecoming
Time For Homecooked Indian Meal
  • Homecoming – Oier actually came back to see us in India before leaving to Spain. That one day taught me a lot about life when I learnt that he decided to spend his limited time and resources to meet us and not touring few more places instead. He showed a gesture that exhales soo much Value.
  • Aura – He is a farmer in The Basque country, empath yet an individual non perfectionist who believes in sudden plans, instant hugs, spreading humor and endless sarcasm.
  • Celebrating differences – He embraced how different things were, never compared or complaint. While he indulged on ‘India food feast’ he also cooked his local dishes for us. He serenely enjoyed the elements that made him uncomfortable because he could see through people.
  • Musical Nostalgia – While we held to the collections from i tunes, Spotify etc. During his stay with us we found unbelievable sources/collection from the local radio stations back in The Basque country. Like he came with gift boxes full of music we love but haven’t heard before.
  • Co existence – Oier not only connected with us two but also owned everyone we know here. He made memories with everything that is connected to us that he experienced during his stay. He connects on a human level for easily becoming a part of where he is.
  • The Game Of Thrones – When he showed us the videos of his country, we realized it is the same location where Danerys lands on the Dragonstone. And then he tells us about the many other locations we see in the GOT t.v show and awe about are just less than a thirty min drive for him. Theplace we grow up reflects in our approach towards life.
  • Blissful Goodbye -His goodbye remained, igniting a dream for us to go there in search of him ; so that he can play his character in our life’s movie to once again to broaden the horizons and grow.

My Fraiendd is My Familia now…

Written by Sahithi Divi ( source : http://www.impactscientist.com)