Story of a Girl from Slovakia who is the face of an India social enterprise currently located in Hyderabad. Adela co-founded Chezuba, which is a global volunteering platform that connects digital skills of individuals to the non profit organisations across the world. As a teenager she never wanted to marry , all she wanted was to conquer herself. I could relate to a butterfly while she narrated about her younger times ; change, freedom and letting go to the new horizons.
I was prompted to know how she transpired from a dreamful dancer flowing through the rebellion of changes to that woman who has tremendously attributed herself to the international global impact, operating from India. Professional success is a precise collection of childhood , cultural influence, social regulations and personal chapters. Her story inspires risk taking ability from an enlarged outlook for the millennials .
Bringing an exclusivity to the table backed up with her masters degree in cultural and creative industries, Chinese language and intercultural communication. Adela has worked in the government sector promoting cross cultural and educational exchanges between Slovakia and Taiwan before. Relocating to India was a moment of self disruption for her. Contemplating drawbacks did not stop her from contributing herself to make a deep impact for the world of digital volunteering embracing the cultural surprises and under mining challenges installed within an unequal Indian society.
Her accomplishments are many but I tried exploring her take on factors from an international perspective and about the underrated cum overlooked elements for an Indian woman, over the developed economies. Adela beautifully explains how the social inequality pertains in India, at the same time financial safety must be considered as a great gift for performance. In her experience she finds an enormous potential laying front for women in India due to the secured fabrics upon life and security. Availability of inclusive resources can be used for a larger cause with the right direction she says.
Nobody can take away the memories and the great experience that pushes growth. She seeks a fine balance between finding herself constantly while scaling up as a social entrepreneur in a country that is not new anymore . When asked to define a woman , She said ,” Woman is a sign of power, capable of kindness “. . Through her start up she is promoting Sustainable Development Goal 9 – Industry , Innovation and Infrastructure and also SDG 17 – Partnership for the goals.
Cultural barriers are much more difficult to live than to study and she has chosen the bigger adventure.
Kanyadaan is giving away the bride as a symbolic marriage ritual . Father of the Bride take’s his daughters hand and places it in the Groom’s hand, requesting for him to accept his daughter to be an equal partner.When I google the word ‘Kanya ‘ , it confuses me what a modest, fresh and virgin daugther means. This is performed in order to transfer the responsibility of daughter into the hands of the groom and his family. In my opinion giving away your daughter in donation to wash your sins after bringing her up with such compassion does not fit well with my beliefs. Along with the changing times we forgot to update the rituals to what applies today and why ? The big change is hard to imagine but what about you who is reading this ?
While we are talking about serious social issues leading to gender inequality and the changes we cannot bring on the larger scale, what about advocating for your own equality to stand as a strong example for others to begin their life not as a donated object but a person who underwent a celebration of their union called marriage.
By practising Kanyadaan, the positioning of woman in the family is naturally a draft of bound customs. A lot speaks about the things that we do not question about. There must be some beginning , a collective voice and a powerful repulsion about how we demonstrate rights,in public in form of customs. Due to the potrayal of idiolic rituals gender bias get priorly infused on public platforms and hence, such unopposed beliefs become common norms.
“Unopposed beliefs become common norms”.
Kanyadaanam is a personal expirience which one goes through and it is your own descision to question it or to convert that to a meaningful context that hooks to your view of life. While this ritual occurs at the start of wedding journey , it lays foundation to behavioral hierarchy and common expectation for millions of uniquely different girls. Inferiority need not be economic status , it can also be highly comparable to how she is treated or how her decision making naturally becomes someone else’s right or responsibility overnight.
Everything begins with you. Let us know your thoughts about this custom and why we must bring an end to it as it gives a very inequal picture to the whole world from where the life of a girl begins after marriage.
I raise my voice against donating daughters publicly in a wedding celebration.