Gender Is A Home Affairs Matter

Written By Sahithi Divi

I strongly believe that gender equality is born and begins at home…….

Gender is a Home Affair

Gender Equality closely opens down to how your home and surroundings have shaped you. But now it is about how you shape it for the future generations to beleive what gender equality is ? Gender Equality is not about teaching new ways yet more about unlearning unconscious habits about showcasing inequality in any form backed by gender as the reason.

Home is the place which lands as the horizon for anyody to form a crazy imagination about their life. How many can uphold living multiple lives ? Gender equality will be true if each home has an advocate to remind irreversible benefits of bringing a mindshift of equality independent of gender as we will be able to enjoy the combined affect of identically allocated, consciously taken roles.

No matter whether you are living with a partner , you still run a home for your basic survival. Suddenly one day you get married and you forget to fulfill your own life skills . Some life skills are literally grounded as rules to be fulfilled naturally by women in most of the developing and under developed economies.


Education and awareness can definitely benefit us in some way and why not that begin with working on converting each of our homes into experiment centres to find out the ways to pluck out the gender inequality that shelters within us. Inequal exposure to resources, domestic voilence , patriarchy are the very few embedded characteristics that we can restructure into something useful. Homes have the ability to create unstoppable leaders but homes can also hide away the most mesmorising performances from coming to life. Every home can navigate it’s people towards who they want to be rather than who they must be.


We must stop asking a person what was your dream ? and start asking what is your dream ? Let your home nuture the dreams of all equally. Gender is after all a construct.



Written By Sahithi Divi

Kanya = (Fresh) daughter ; Daan = Donation ? I Oppose This Practise

Written By Sahithi Divi

#iopposekanyadaan

Kanyadaan is giving away the bride as a symbolic marriage ritual . Father of the Bride take’s his daughters hand and places it in the Groom’s hand, requesting for him to accept his daughter to be an equal partner.When I google the word ‘Kanya ‘ , it confuses me what a modest, fresh and virgin daugther means. This is performed in order to transfer the responsibility of daughter into the hands of the groom and his family. In my opinion giving away your daughter in donation to wash your sins after bringing her up with such compassion does not fit well with my beliefs. Along with the changing times we forgot to update the rituals to what applies today and why ? The big change is hard to imagine but what about you who is reading this ?


While we are talking about serious social issues leading to gender inequality and the changes we cannot bring on the larger scale, what about advocating for your own equality to stand as a strong example for others to begin their life not as a donated object but a person who underwent a celebration of their union called marriage.


By practising Kanyadaan, the positioning of woman in the family is naturally a draft of bound customs. A lot speaks about the things that we do not question about. There must be some beginning , a collective voice and a powerful repulsion about how we demonstrate rights,in public in form of customs. Due to the potrayal of idiolic rituals gender bias get priorly infused on public platforms and hence, such unopposed beliefs become common norms.

“Unopposed beliefs become common norms”.

Kanyadaanam is a personal expirience which one goes through and it is your own descision to question it or to convert that to a meaningful context that hooks to your view of life. While this ritual occurs at the start of wedding journey , it lays foundation to behavioral hierarchy and common expectation for millions of uniquely different girls. Inferiority need not be economic status , it can also be highly comparable to how she is treated or how her decision making naturally becomes someone else’s right or responsibility overnight.

Everything begins with you. Let us know your thoughts about this custom and why we must bring an end to it as it gives a very inequal picture to the whole world from where the life of a girl begins after marriage.

#iopposekanyadaan

I raise my voice against donating daughters publicly in a wedding celebration.

Written By Sahithi Divi

Where Is Gender Equality In India ?

Written by Sahithi Divi

India is the world’s largest democracy and second largest populous country. With stinkingly diversified geography compassed with an ancient history, India is excelling rapidly in technology, skill building and various fields. But what is the place of Gender Equality in India ? What are the areas affected due to the deeply rooted Gender Inequality? How can it bleach into an outburst of social downfall ?

The Sustainable Development Goal 5 – Gender Equality to me, converts into equal opportunites and access to economic resources for every person regardless of gender or behavioral uniquness. In addition to the brutal practices fought against Gender like Female Genital Mutilation, Child marriage, Discrimination against men through child labour and many more, it is very challenging to gauge the impact of Gender Equality just with it’s definition, as it prevails in soo many forms on every level in almost all sectors. Let us explore some basics of picturing the futuristic red zones in Gender Bias…

Bottomline Workforce
  • Regardless of the social hierarchy, gender bias exists in Politics, Healthcare, Economic positions, Entertainment, Education, Sports, Aviation , Agriculture, Low income working forces and Homes.
  • The challenge comes in form of Right to Education, Employment, Descison making, Marital implications, Financial access, Socio- economic limitations, Professional bottomline choices and Gender based behavioral expectations.
  • Resulting in seperation of normalcy between different genders at young age that supresses my transgender friends to speak up, young girls to drop out for home needs or marriage and men to discontinue education for a daily wage.
  • While the problem is socially stubborn, the change has to start from Homes? Schools? Work place? Government? – to create awareness asking for a mindshift in unlearning the stereotypes that came along.
  • We must come together and believe strongly that Gender Equality accelerates the country’s economic growth. By providing communication channels, digital tools, reducing the financial stigma on men, maternity support and women empowerment indexes creating socially aware and healthier families.
  • Discrimination of any gender hampers the balance in performace at home, public or private sector – affecting the productivity that will benefit everyone in the end.
  • Gender Equality is far more than a fundamental right. The only sustainable way to achieve it is to be aware, create awareness, empower others and don’t stop!

Above is an introduction for the key role indicators and challenges faced by Gender Equality that are affecting us like an epidemic. Let us build on this idea – to live the dream of a world free from Gender Inequality.

Written by Sahithi Divi ( source : http://www.impactscientist.com)

Men – In The War Of Gender Polarization

Written By Sahithi Divi

Thoughts revisited ( pic : pier 39, San Fransisco )

In these times of extremism, are men able to leverage from the war of gender inequality? Men are being socially subjected to focul standards that forces an embarking imbalance in their self discovery. If a woman is born with pre made choices for her , a man is born with precisely oriented responsibilities for him to deliver. There are ofcourse two sides of gender inequality, but being a firm believer of cross functional ( Men and Women supporting each other ) compatibility benefits, I start off to brainstorm my inferences about the social stigma that is encountered by ‘Men’ in the name of Gender Polarization.

Myths that can affect men

  • Don’t cry like a girl ‘ – Such a mean phrase, that can reduce a person to subjective confusion, not only about his external behaviour but also damages the formation of an internal co existent mind set.
  • Man up – Really ? Does it refer to Strength? Bravery? Drive of Sex? or Built? What we repeatedly say, becomes what we believe, which in turn becomes who we are… Let us promote a world free of ‘ Manning up’ for Men.
  • Homemaker – The greatest things we say about a homemaker ; will we still say all the greatest things if the homemaker is a Man ?
  • Identity Crisis – ‘ Man – Money – Measure ‘ is a deeply engraved carving over a man’s life which means – measure the man with money. Let us create an emotionally insured world for men.
  • Emotional competency – Although empathy can be wonderfully exhibited by men yet they are more vulnerable to expression and often hold back from showing a weakness without restraint.
  • Perfection – Expectation of perfection parasites over men with compulsory deliverables, leaving no choice but to be left wanting to be more better.
  • Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus – We are all united by the means of humanity, nature and resources. Diversity gives differential learning whereas it does not mean that men and women are opposites by nature.

An old man once said to me , ” It is easier to raise strong children than it is to repair broken men “. ( St. Anthony’s Foundation ) Think about it…

Written By Sahithi Divi ( source : http://www.impactscientist.com )

Blueprint of a child

Written by – Sahithi Divi (Source: http://www.impactscientist.com)

A child is born with a million aspirations into this world. An imaginary bundle of not just JOY but also HOPE. It is rare to see a free spirit bloom on it’s own, creating his own path.

Blueprint of a child

A child is secluded from natural creativity by dominantly showcasing the aspirations seeded by others over him. We speak about pre mature children in today’s world due to the filterless content availability but aren’t we also limiting the real growth of a pre matured child by planting our own presumptions at a young age ?

Are we aspiring to create successful men or happier men ? What is the long term truth of blueprinting a child’s life ?

  • Creates emotional imbalance
  • Brings materialistic aspirations
  • Kills creativity and innovation
  • Core gifted skill goes unexplored

It is a simple logic that every person is born with a special skill and deserves a chance to aim for beats that resonate with the music of their own life. By creating rigid frame works since a young age about the next few decades of someone’s life may leave them trying to normalise the difficult rather than playing the next level.

Reflects on my thoughts and think about your version from the image that made me write this article.

Written by – Sahithi Divi (Source: http://www.impactscientist.com)