Where does the challenge begin for women ? Why is their identity at stake ?
Women in especially developing countries and in this case India, seem to battle with identity crisis due to the lack of equal resources and cultural speedbreakers controlling her capacity to achieve or dream. Identity crisis begins with the most generic habit of giving her feminine and household rolemodels only as an option, to pick from categories to explore.
At the same time we color the girl’s life with so many identification pointers reminding her the limitations of her being a girl. Her abilities are limitless but how much can she unfold is often not for her to decide. How can a person be confused about uncertain expectations of others ?
Fulfillment of purpose and happiness inside the soul can exist when all the factors in your life are decided by you yourself. Gender roles are tearing up almost every women to defend herself against the feminine responsibilities written off by everyone else for the women in most of the cases to forgo her real identity to fulfill the voids of a shared promise all by herself.
A women has no choice but to contribute hertime and preferences to soo many people trying to create a strong influence for her well being. Every person has a vast layout of their life, a women’s layout is created by a team of family members and influencial society examples. All she can do is decorate the provided layout with her choice of theme.
This kind of a situation occurs because she is not designed to think like a bread winner instead she is told to be a meal maker and at the same time homemaking is considered compulsion not luxury.
Identity is more than a person’s right where as we are creating layers of identities with divided classes of norms and expectations.
Focusing on one’s own prosperity is much more eventful than thinking actively for an other adult especially influencing them to such an extent that gender actually becomes a considerable point of accepting inequality .
I strongly believe that gender equality is born and begins at home…….
Gender Equality closely opens down to how your home and surroundings have shaped you. But now it is about how you shape it for the future generations to beleive what gender equality is ? Gender Equality is not about teaching new ways yet more about unlearning unconscious habits about showcasing inequality in any form backed by gender as the reason.
Home is the place which lands as the horizon for anyody to form a crazy imagination about their life. How many can uphold living multiple lives ? Gender equality will be true if each home has an advocate to remind irreversible benefits of bringing a mindshift of equality independent of gender as we will be able to enjoy the combined affect of identically allocated, consciously taken roles.
No matter whether you are living with a partner , you still run a home for your basic survival. Suddenly one day you get married and you forget to fulfill your own life skills . Some life skills are literally grounded as rules to be fulfilled naturally by women in most of the developing and under developed economies.
Education and awareness can definitely benefit us in some way and why not that begin with working on converting each of our homes into experiment centres to find out the ways to pluck out the gender inequality that shelters within us. Inequal exposure to resources, domestic voilence , patriarchy are the very few embedded characteristics that we can restructure into something useful. Homes have the ability to create unstoppable leaders but homes can also hide away the most mesmorising performances from coming to life. Every home can navigate it’s people towards who they want to be rather than who they must be.
We must stop asking a person what was your dream ? and start asking what is your dream ? Let your home nuture the dreams of all equally. Gender is after all a construct.
Gender Inequality is multidimentional socio economic issue which need both policies in place as well as the personal mindshift of every individual. It is spread across the corners in disguise. Gender Equality cannot be provided as a service or product. It is a change in the way of thinking and more like cultivating a natural habit of treating an other person equally. Rise of words like women empowerment and feminism is a result of dominating outdated beliefs which are unparallel to current social structures where women are breaking the glass shell around them.
Let us look at the Gender Statistics for India
Gender Inequality Index Rank –132 out of 187 countries
Female Male Sex Ratio –930 out of 1000 males
No. of childmarriages in a day – 39000 girls
No. of women with NO bank accounts – 80%
Percentage of women in labour force – 28% compared to men which is 82%
Literacy rate of women – 66%
Women suffering sexual or physical voilence – 1 in 3
Percentage of women in parliament – 11%
Working women in unorganised sector –95%
No. of teen mothers per year – 16 Million
Percentage of girls able to use sanitary napkins – 16%
While navigating the young minds of our daughters, gender roles are centered towards family and wellness. Growing up to certain unreal fascination, childhood remains the most influencial part of everyone’s life. This directly affects the behavioural incompetence and confusion in choosing roles to play. Elimination process is conducted by the parent, partner or children for the women. This is also called Patriarchy !
Unlearning is the factor of importance in tackling gender inequality. Leadership to advocate against constructed bias will influence change. Gender inequality has the power to destroy healthy and sustainable ecosystems. Women who have the gift of being able to reproduce , must not be undermined to emotional duties dictated by someone. Self initiative by each of us will bring a collective movement that will enforce each person to restructure their homes and surroundings.